Thank you for being here, on my website in your search for someone who suits you to support you on your way. I would love to walk next to you for a while.

Way of working

Everyone is unique so I don't believe in a one-size-fits-all principle. Our collaboration gives shape to the precise content of our process. Themes that are often the core of my work: self-knowledge, self-acceptance, self-love, boundaries, needs, authentic connection, relaxation, values and purpose, Helping people to stand in their power and strengthen them from their core. Let go of what no longer serves you and strengthen what really suits you.

My way of working is a mix of my educations, acquired knowledge, personal experiences and various tools in my backpack. With my intuition of what is needed and your experience as a constant guideline. In our contact we talk to each other. However, we often talk past our bodies. I like to link talking to feeling, for example with visualizations and meditation.

I specialized in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). This is based on the principle that fear, sadness and pain are part of life and are inextricably linked to what you find important. We tend to avoid pain, which is not crazy of course, pain is just not so nice. In our society, however, the idea easily arises that you are broken when you are in pain, that something is wrong with you. And often we don't want to feel that pain anymore. However, the reality is that you will never live a life of only happiness, without setbacks and pain. With an ACT-focused approach, we try to create a willingness to look at the pain together to better understand it and see how you would like to do it differently. Not to react from an unconscious, automatic reaction to the pain, but from a conscious choice for what is desired and valuable for you.

I like to combine ACT with Voice Dialogue. Voice Dialogue is a method to enter into a dialogue with our inner voices. Maybe you recognize it, those different voices in your head, which often seem to say completely different things. The different voices belong to different parts of our personality, with underlying (often conflicting) needs. In Voice Dialogue, the different parts are invited to speak freely, without suppression from the ego (which usually identifies with dominant subpersonalities such as the 'critic', 'pleaser' or 'controller'). By giving space to the different aspects of your personality (rather than suppressing them or letting them lead unconsciously), you create more space to truly live from your internal values ​​and pure self.

Experiences

Many Dutch and international people worked with me before you. I can imagine you want to get an idea of their experience! See the subheading 'ervaringen' (experiences) at the top of the menu. Some of them are written in English. 

After my studies I started as a psychologist at a psychology practice, where I supported children, adolescents and their parents for four years. They came in with various complaints, such as low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, stimulus sensitivity, high sensitivity, burnout, difficulty with concentration, relationship problems and loss. Through conversations I helped them on their way to walk their own path with more self-love, lightness, joy and confidence.

During my years as a psychologist, I noticed a shift within me. I specialized in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), which is based on mindfulness (being completely in the present moment). The core is that pain is part of life and that you can learn to observe thoughts and feelings without being identified with or fight against (and thus suffered from) them. While I continued to understand classification within mental health care (GGZ), I noticed a growing resistance to diagnose. I felt that I wanted to contribute less and less to 'labeling' people. I noticed that people often identify with a 'label', while I actually want to contribute to the process of de-identification. De-identifying from everything that limits you. What you thínk you are, or are not. Because you are so much móre than you think you are. You are everything. Everything you need already exists within you. I believe that you are a light within, with layers (patterns, automatic reactions, roles, behaviors, masks) created around which made you forget that deep down you are already whole.

Within the mental health care system I lost my fire and the connection with my intuition because I worked too much from my head, and focused on the head. I decided to quit my job and travel for half a year through Central and South America to reconnect myself with my intuition. During that trip, my company and her name was born: Eye-Am. I learned about breathwork, which was a nice addition to the Reiki (channeling energy with my hands) I learned earlier, and reconnected deeply with my body. I became acquainted with plant medicines, immersed myself in Voice Dialogue (visualizing and observing which personal (child) pieces represent the different voices in your head) and filled my backpack with beautiful experiences. Experiences that continue every day because I am a student of life as much as you are. Under one of my most important mottos: practice what you preach! All this confirmed my feeling: psychology and spirituality form a beautiful and powerful combination.

This shift also led to a shift in the person with whom I prefer to work. I am at my best when I can contribute to the process of self-acceptance and self-love and creating the life that is meaningful for you. This mainly develops in adulthood. That's why I'm currently working with adults. I am affiliated with the Dutch Institute of Psychologists (NIP), with the recognized registration Psychologist NIP (NIP number: 237525).

In addition to my work as a psychologist, I have been working at Leiden University since 2017 in the Psychology program. Here I teach workgroups within the bachelor and master in which I seek to contribute to educating conscious, authentic and critically thinking psychologists. I strongly enjoy working with groups of students, where the combination of energies and the reflection of each other create beautiful processes.

Name

The name Eye-Am came about during my trip in Colombia, which gave me goosebumps because it represents what I want to contribute to in the world. The eyes are the window to the soul. With real (eye) contact, the created layers disappear and contact is made at a different level. I would like to make this contact with you. So I can help you remember who you already are inside. I want to help you to really see yourself and from there create the path you want to walk in life. Strengthen your roots and make your flowers bloom. Eye Am. Because if we remove all layers, this truth remains: I Am.

Investment

I believe in deepening and going to the core. No band aids and symptom control, but together we create real healing and transformation. This takes time. Just like for creating new habits. That is why a separate session is only possible as an initial meeting and after a reconnecttrajectory And that is why a session in a trajectory is one and a half hour.

Together we embark on a journey. We see each other on average once every two weeks and in the meantime I invite you to do small experiments to support your process. This can for example be writing, reading or listening something. Everything in consultation, you do nothing that you don't feel like doing. Autonomy as an important value.

In our last session we evaluate where you are at that moment. If you need more time, we will continue with the process. We can customize this. If you look back with a sense of satisfaction and if you feel that you want to continue by yourself from here, we will close the process and make a plan for further integration into your life. You are always welcome to come back when you want to.

At this time we can start straight away.

Working online is possible. 

I have decided not to enter into contracts with health insurers, so I don't have to 'label' to support someone. This means that the trajectory cannot be reimbursed from your insurance (whereby the personal contribution of 385 or 885 euros often still has to be paid yourself). If you work somewhere: an option is to ask your employer to reimburse or contribute to the costs of our process. Many companies allocate their staff an annual training budget for personal development. After all, it benefits an employer that you feel good and that you can continue to do your work! In the case of compensation by the employer, I am obliged to charge 21% VAT.

Contact

Group deepdive

After almost 10 years of working as a psychologist, teacher and trainer, I have combined the best parts of my knowledge and (personal) experience in a magical program, which I share with you from the heart. It is my passion to help people connect with their essence and each other.  Connect with yourself and others in this intimate and profound program for a maximum of 8 women: